How To Keep Your Relationship Healthy
Relationships, especially the romantic ones are important for our happiness. Yet, with more than 40% of marriages ending in divorce, it’s obvious that relationships are difficult to handle. Fortunately, there are tips you can use to maintain your romantic partnership in good working order.
The key word for a healthy relationship is communication. Healthy couples always check in with one another. It’s important to be able to talk to each other about more than just parenting and the household. Spending a few minutes each day discussing more personal subjects, helps to keep connected to your companion over the long term.
However, that doesn’t mean that you should not bring up difficult subjects. Keeping problems to yourself can breed disaffection. Researchers have found that communication is more important than commitment. In particular, negative patterns like anger and contempt are linked to a raise of splitting up.
Disagreements are part of any relationship, but some fights are especially damaging. Couples who use disastrous behaviour during fights — such as yelling, personal criticisms or withdrawing from the conversation — are more likely to get a divorce than others who fight constructively. Constructive strategies for resolving arguments include trying to find out how your partner is feeling, listening to their point of view and trying to make them laugh.
Life among kids, career and outside commitments, it might be difficult to stay connected to your companion. But there are good reasons to keep trying. Researchers found couples that admitted boredom after seven years of marriage and were significantly less satisfied with their relationships nine years later.
Some tips to keep it interesting are date nights, where couples break the routine and try new things.
Some happy couples keep these habits:
- Sleep at the same time
- Adopt common interests
- Walk keeping their hands together
- Make trust and forgiveness their default mode
- Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
- Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
- Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
- Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
- Do a “weather” check during the day
- Be proud to be seen with your partner
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